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What Can a Nonmartial Arts Spouse Do Before a Self-Defense Situation and During a Self-Defense Situation
Steps a spouse or significant other may take to help and not hinder during a self-defense situation....
Through
my own experiences, witnessing events and hearing stories an
untrained third party can either escalate a potentially dangerous
self-defense situation or help to bring it to a safe close. Here
are some suggestions for untrained third parties.
Shuttttttttttt Upppppppppppppp
How
often has everything began to deescalate when the third party says
something, the guy(s) stop, turn around and come back. On another
occasion I ask a then date to be quiet thinking there was an
intruder in the house. In a loud reaching voice I was told not to
tell her to be quiet. No one was in the house fortunately.
Don't Grab His/Her Arm
I've
seen this and it's happened to me. Your significant other gets
scared and grabs one of your weapons (your arm). Great, now you
got some behemoth with bad breath in your face and your
significant other pulling on your arm.
What Can Your Significant Other do to Help?
If
it's possible walk off and call the police. Giving your name and
description as the one potentially being attacked and a
description of the number of people who are acting in a
threatening manner and it won't hurt for the third party to repeat
himself/herself.
Statements Concerning Other Rendezvous
Great
excuse to leave. You didn't say it so you don't have to worry
about the chickening out statement though obviously ignore it if
you do.
If a Physical Altercation Begins
If
the third party is someone you need to protect he/she needs to
stay behind you. Third party closest to the nearest escape route
if possible. If an escape route is not possible keep the third
party near the wall preferably corner (I'm already waiting for
people to disagree feel free to comment on my blog or in a Yahoo
group)
During the physical altercation your significant
other can make himself/herself busy by phoning the police and
recording the incident with his/her cell phone camera. Yelling
help police wouldn't hurt either. Yeah I know all about the yell
fire thing and that more people may respond to that since it may
affect them. We recently had a situation here in Honolulu where
some creep ran into his exgirlfriend's car then got out and beat
her to death with a shotgun.
Of all the people watching
only one old man help and got a butt in the head. Shame on you
people by the way. It's our job to make the streets safe for our
children and grandchildren. Everyone should do everything they can
within the law to do so.
So if the people are a bunch of sheep as they were in that instance, then you may not get much help by yelling, but yelling help police can also help you look better in court as well so nowadays we must protect ourselves that way as well.
Conclusion
I
look forward to other comments and ideas from my readers through
my blog http://360.yahoo.com/tutor2000
or the groups and forums with whom I've shared my articles. I've
only scratched the surface here to get you thinking. Perhaps
together we can brainstorm and make a list of safety tips for
various scenarios
About the Author
J. Richard Kirkham is a dual
certified teacher specializing in alternative teaching methods
and a martial arts instructor. He currently resides in Honolulu
with his wife Jan and son Rylan.
He's the author of
Bringing The Martial Artist Out from Within
http://kirkhamsebooks.com/MartialArts/BringingTheMartialArtistOutfrombykirkham.htm
and Self-Defense and Over-Coming Fear downloadable video
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